Welcome back to another blog hop, with #OpenBook. Here’s this week’s prompt.
Don’t forget to click the link to see what everyone else has to say on this week’s subject. It’s at the end of my post.
How do you know you’re going to become friends with a new person you’ve just met?
To be honest, it’s a waste of time asking me. I’m an introvert with social phobia (amongst other things), and the whole concept of meeting new people fills me with dread.
Why do you think I spent nearly 40 years at sea, away from large groups and what I see as awkward situations?
The worst thing about being an introvert is that those who are more extroverted can’t understand why we’re not like them. They assume that there’s something “wrong” with us.
Actually, it’s just the way we’re wired.
For more about this subject, here’s a useful article.
As an introvert, I’m quite happy with my own company. I struggle with making small talk and, apart from my own specialised field, have nothing to say that anyone seems to find interesting.
I’ve also found that my opinions do not always align with those of the people I’ve expressed them to.
It’s sad, but speaking your truth, no matter how politely, can lead to problems.
The idea that I have to conform or modify who I am or what I think to be accepted doesn’t appeal to me, nor does the concept of being part of a group.
There are a few people that I talk to on social media and meet socially, but I find larger gatherings overwhelming. My senses get overloaded, particularly if there is a lot of background noise or things going on.
I find it hard to cope in such situations, especially when people can’t understand what the problem is (see above).
I’m quite happy sticking with my family and the people I know; they understand and accept me, warts and all.
What do you think about this week’s subject?
Let me know by leaving me a comment.
While you’re here, please click the InLinkz link to check out what my fellow writers have to say about this week’s topic.
Until next time.
I’d love to get your comments, please leave them below. While you’re here, why not take a look around? There are some freebies and lots more content, about me, my writing and everything else that I do. You can join my newsletter for a free novella and more news by clicking this link.
Stevie Turner
I’m exactly the same, Richard. I’m fine with my own company and shy away from crowds, noisy parties and small talk. For me I blame the ‘only child’ syndrome, as I grew up without siblings and in a quiet house. Did you do the same?
Richard Dee
Yes, that was also the story of my youth. I used to think there was something wrong with me, then I was diagnosed as autistic at age 58. Suddenly, my life made sense.
P.J. MacLayne
I also have a hard time in large groups, but that’s partly because I am mostly deaf in one ear. All that noise comes in the same ear. I have trouble determining where any particular sound originates from.
Richard Dee
I can get quite agitated in groups, the energy often feels quite oppressive.
Kelly Williams
I agree. It’s been such a struggle, even in school days. Cruelty always seemed to find me, making me increasingly introverted. People will always find something wrong with what you say because they want to. I’m much happier in my small group away from the drama!
Richard Dee
Oh yes, I’m right with you there. The world in my head is a far more accepting place.